Celebrant, MC and DJ for Same Sex LGBT Wedding Celebrations
This page has been a long time coming, mostly because I wasn’t sure quite how to tackle the subject without offending or alienating anyone. Let’s start this way. I’m Richard Mills and I’m not gay. I am however completely in agreement with the legality of same sex relationships and marriage and I’m something of an expert on wedding entertainment and the celebration of love.
I recently entertained at a wedding celebration with a same-sex couple,and I was a little anxious before the celebration day. What elements of the day were going to be different, what should I call them, etc. I tried to do some research on the internet as part of my preparation and got quite frustrated at the lack of helpful information I found.
What I found was that I needed to treat a same-sex wedding the same way I would treat a traditional wedding, with the exception of a few minor tweaks. There are many things about a same-sex wedding that are the same as other weddings.
Meeting with the couple turned out to be a lot of fun. There were a few details that we needed to adjust, but none of the changes were difficult and I found the planning was fun for me, because of the minor differences. My plan is to adjust my Wedding Reception Planner to suit same sex couples, taking into account the few adjustments a same-sex couple is likely to want to make.
The particulars of each event depend on the couple. Will there be two bouquets, one, or none all together? How will you cut the cake? Do you prefer being called “brides,” “grooms,” “partners,” or something else? At the ceremony, who will walk the aisle, and in what order? Will you have a Best Man, a Best Girl, a Bridesman or a Flower Boy and Page Girl? What speeches and toasts are going to be suitable?
As a wedding MC and DJ, I focus on what works best for each part of the program, how to add fun and make everything special and memorable for both the couple and guests. Couples should preferably meet with their MC/DJ to go over the timeline of events, to work out if you’re going to be a good fit and whether the DJ has an understanding for the type of celebration you have in mind.
The most important thing to look for is flexibility and willingness to work with you to create a unique celebration, and be clear on your particular taste in music. Some DJs are surprisingly unwilling to take requests and very few will ask you about ways that they can help make your celebration unique, personalised and memorable.
If you have any special requests, just let them know as soon as you think about it. Don’t feel bad about special requests- DJs get tired of playing the same old wedding favourite tunes time after time too. So, tell them your ideas. It should be fun.
I like to recommend scheduling time to meet with two or three DJs in person. It may be difficult to tell the difference between DJs based solely upon looking at their websites. However, if you can spend 45 minutes with them in person you will instinctively know which one you trust more and who is a better fit for your day. Hopefully your DJ will have enough passion for creating a wonderful celebration that they will remember to use your names, rather than just Groom & Groom or Bride & Bride!